2. How to be a real friend. Sometimes, the bully isn't targeting you, but someone else-- someone weaker, who needs help. It's so difficult and so important to provide other kids with emotional support so they can be stronger, too, even if it means risking becoming the bully's next target.
3. Who to trust. This is a lifelong lesson that adults struggle with, too. As a kid, it can be even tougher to figure out people's motivations. It's hard watching our kids get hurt when they try to befriend the "wrong" person, but it's also a necessary part of the process, so they'll learn when to be open with people and when to keep their guard up.
4. How to love learning. Kids have natural curiosity that can be squashed when adults try to impose too many rules and restrictions. Fanciful questions deserve fanciful answers. So squirrels like to ride on unicorns' backs when no one is looking? Sure they do! Forcing adult logic into kid questions will make academic learning an automatic turn-off.
5. How much we can matter. When we raise kids who believe they can make a difference, we improve the world. All the good we see in humanity is because people believed their little lives might matter.
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Love this post :) and what a fabulous way to teach a child how to, non-aggressively deal with a bully.
ReplyDeleteA great post. I'm so sorry your daughter has all ready encounted a bully at age 3! But I agree with everything you said, and I'm learning how to teach my stepdaughter those things...and of course making many mistakes along the way.
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ReplyDeleteI was dismayed to read that Sarina has had to deal with a bully at such a young age but good for her for standing up to the bully! She's definitely one very awesome and strong little girl. :)
ReplyDeleteYour first point took me back to my primary school days when I had my first experience of being bullied. In my case, my mother had to intervene (talk directly to the bullying girl). I am glad you encouraged Sarina to do it on her own. Makes a world of difference.
ReplyDeleteSuper (and important!) post, and very good lessons for our children. How I desperately wish someone had taught *me* how to deal with bullies. It would have prevented ever so much heartache over my school years!
ReplyDeleteSarina did a super job with the bully-in-training!